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 There is a very strong psychological bond between the baby and the mother. While still in the tummy, the child can react to the mood of the mother, hear her voice and respond to calls. After being born for several years, the baby still loves his mother unconditionally, whatever she may be. It is necessary to instill in the baby love for his mother not only so that he is an obedient and loving child. Expressed feelings for mom are the key to the correct realization of the little man as a parent in the future.
"I don't love my mom anymore"
The kid may not show great love for his mother if she is too strict and cold to him. You do not need to think that by showing affection and tenderness to the baby, you will grow out of him a slobber and a lover of "calf tenderness". Quite the opposite. Children who have enough mother's affection and love grow up self-confident and not notorious. In addition, the child may react violently to a lack of attention from the mother. If she is constantly busy and spends little time with the child, he may draw attention to himself through moods and bad behavior. Even if mom spends all her time with the little one, he can demonstrate much more joy when communicating with dad, whom he sees much less often, grandparents (who come once a month and pamper the child to the maximum). And it is the mother who becomes for the baby a real “piggy bank” of prohibitions and restrictions: “don't go there”, “don't do that,” “sit still.”
How to cultivate love for mom
This question is often asked by many women too late. You need to start instilling attachment from the moment the baby is in the womb. It is very important that mom is calm and friendly. Feeling negative, the baby can easily perceive it in his direction, and therefore treat his mother more restrained. In general, it is very important for him to feel sincere maternal love and care. If you are fiddling with your baby just because “it should be so”, often think that he “ruined your life”, depriving you of great prospects, do not doubt that the child will feel this and react at the same level.
And there is a situation when the mother takes care of the baby with all her love, is ready to sacrifice everything for the sake of the little man, and he declares to her: “You are bad. I do not love you!". In this situation, there is no need to scold the baby and even more so to use physical force. These phrases do not mean that the child really hates you. He's just offended that you forbade him something or scolded him for something. Don't make concessions to your child to be a "good mom." So you will bring up an egoist who certainly will not love you as much as himself and his needs.
To cultivate love for mom in a child, you must first of all become loving, caring and patient. And the baby will answer your love. In addition, his father's example is important to him. Do not let your husband speak badly of you in the presence of the child and scare him with you: "Now mom will come and punish you." Agree that he will support all your inhibitions and convince the little one that he has the most wonderful mommy!
Kish A.Yu.
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