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 There are several factors that can contribute to your child's poor performance. Knowing about each of them, you can predict the child's behavior and help him overcome the obstacles that have arisen in front of him. Psychological and moral assistance will have a beneficial effect. At the same time, one must not be mistaken in the choice of behavior tactics. All of this will contribute to the restoration of positive academic performance, increased diligence and desire for knowledge.
"Change of circumstances"
Quite often, a sharp deterioration in school performance is directly related to some changes in the family: a divorce of parents, the appearance of a second child, the death of a grandmother or other close relative, etc. The child has lost something in this life, he began to miss some psychological "stroking" ... So he signals with his bad studies (usually to his mother) that everything is fine with him, tries to attract attention to himself with his negative behavior , wants someone close to him to sit with him, at least while doing the lessons, scolded him, in the end - this is differently better than complete indifference to him. Apparently, before everything was "under control", but now no one has a hand on his "pulse", at least so it seems to him.
"Ideal self"
Many parents, in order to encourage their child to study well, resort to the help of positive examples (“Here is Pasha, what a clever child, he studies with only A's!”), Not realizing that the choice of a role model or a standard for the behavior of your child must be extremely careful: you can get the effect exactly the opposite ... It is necessary to take into account the following: this object must necessarily be one of the authorities recognized by the child (for example, a favorite film actor, older brother, coach in the section, etc.), this sample must be ahead of the current one by several "steps" the level of development of the child. Do not use the behavior of his classmate, neighbor girl / boy, etc. as an example. As a rule, in this case there is a desire to do everything "in spite of" - coupled with a strong dislike for the very object of imitation. (You also don't like it when you are compared to someone and regret that you are not like someone from your environment, do you?)
"Self-assessment"
Here are the results of one psychological experiment. The child is tested for IQ. The performance is very good and he is informed about it. But the child himself does not believe in himself and in his own possibility of success; for himself, he explains this problem by pure chance or a mistake of the examiner. The next time, with similar testing, his "IQ" is below normal ...
Everything is correct. A person brought reality into conformity with his ideas about himself: it is easier to distort external signals than to change the entire structure of his personality (we do the same when someone tells us the whole “truth” in the eyes - we blame the other, in all “mortals sins ", instead of thinking:" Why did it bother me? ") In this regard, it is interesting that the self-assessments of the mother and her child, as a rule, coincide, ie a mother who directly injects him with her self-image ("I am mediocrity, so you too ...").
"Level of claims"
As a result of a number of psychological studies, it was revealed that some people in the situation of the proposed choice prefer to immediately take on the solution of problems of increased complexity and, if they fail, constantly return to the unsolved "puzzle"; others, on the contrary, first try their hand at "small", and then slowly rise "up" ... until the first mistake and calmly stop there. It turns out that this level of the "bar" of achievements is determined, first of all, by a person's idea of himself, his abilities, his place in this world.In the same way, the child decides for himself (of course, not without the "feeding" of the parents) whether to be the first in the class, or whether it is enough to enter the "top five", or maybe not to protrude at all and remain "in the shadow of the middle peasants" ...
Karina
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