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 Living together with your mother-in-law ... If you have such a "fate", you should not panic ahead of time, maybe everything is not as bad as it seems? This article will give you some useful tips for such a case. Of course, this is not the ultimate dream of a young wife, but what to do if you live with your “second mother”? The most important thing is patience. If you are patient with the closest relative of your chosen one, you can be sure that half the job is done.
The second is respect. No matter how quarrelsome your mother-in-law may be, you must respect her. If only because she is older than you. Plus, she's your spouse's mom. If you don't want family fights and showdowns, follow this advice. After all, the young husband will jealously observe from the outside how you communicate with his mother. And believe me, if he doesn't like something, it's your attitude towards her, even if in reality everything will be the other way around. For a man, a mother is something sacred, which he has always adored and will adore all his life. And you can't do anything about it. Do you want to keep family and understanding with your loved one? Treat his mother well.
From the very first moment you entered this house, do not take everything with hostility. Try to make friends with your mother-in-law, find common interests. After all, you will always have time to quarrel, and if it is at the very beginning, living with such a person under one roof will be simply unbearable.
Be welcoming and friendly with your mother-in-law. She should have a good impression of you. Do not be afraid of constant questions from her, because she worries about your relationship and the happiness of her son. Behave correctly and compliant with her. Ask for advice on how and what to do. Any mother-in-law is usually flattered if she is consulted. She may point out to herself that by doing so, you show that her opinion is dear to you.
But do not follow her lead. If you feel that your compliance is turning into bondage, stop immediately. Remember: no matter what, you should not lose your self-esteem, always defend your point of view and stick to it. There should be a limit to everything. If your mother-in-law takes possession of you, it will not be easy to get out of this web. And she herself will cease to respect you.
If you have a different opinion on this or that question, try not to argue with your "mom", it is useless. Just silently do what you want.
Never put your husband a choice between you and your mom. Apart from scandals, this will not lead to anything good. And in general, if possible, do not interfere with your husband in your "female showdown." After all, he loves both of you, and thus you put him in an awkward situation.
If you cook well, your mother-in-law will like it. Taking on this work with joy, you will bring joy to her and your loved one. Give your mother-in-law small gifts and compliments. You can even gossip with her a little, but in moderation.
Concluding the above, you can add that no matter how wonderful you live with the mother of your chosen one, and living separately is much better. You will immediately feel the opportunities that were denied. Well, of course, it's up to you to decide.
Katty
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