Child's birthday is a holiday for the whole family

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Child's birthday is a holiday for the whole familyA big event happened in your life - your child was born. Glasses will be raised to the health of the new man who has appeared on earth. Naturally, the culprit himself will not be able to take part in this celebration, snoring sweetly in his bed.

But another year will pass, and another year after year. You will already be celebrating your third, fourth or fifth birthday with friends and family. And the holiday, as in the first years, will not be for him, but only for you, adults.

Years of childhood will pass, and the sediment will remain, And every time the birthday approaches, you will increasingly begin to notice that the guys are not particularly happy about it. Or maybe you will hear: “I don’t like my birthday. You are waiting for something interesting, joyful, but nothing happens. Uncles and aunts, friends of the parents, will gather again ... And I'm bored! "

Some parents tend to go to the other extreme of not celebrating their children's birthday at all. As time passes, parents will be saddened to notice that on their own birthdays, children forget to congratulate them. Offensive inattention, but why was it born? ..

Child's birthday is a holiday for the whole familyEach friendly family has its own good traditions. They unite the family, create an atmosphere of intimacy, and foster a sense of family pride.

One of these wonderful traditions is the celebration of the birthday of each of the children. Remember your childhood, the joyful excitement that you experienced that day! The whole family joyfully celebrates the birthday man's successes in work, study, life. On this day, the table will be laid festively for him, pies will be baked, lamps will light up brightly in a special way, music will play. Do not turn this day into a holiday for yourself and your friends. Let it remain a holiday for the child himself, his friends and, of course, the closest relatives.

When the child turns three or four years old, we recommend organizing a small children's party on his birthday. For teenagers, you can organize a family evening with schoolmates and friends around the house.

Experiencing together with the children the cares and joys of preparing for the birthday, parents and children become closer to each other, a lively festive atmosphere is created in the family.

Those parents who do everything themselves, leaving the children the role of passive spectators, do the wrong thing. Active participation in all preparations for the family holiday will make it even more interesting for the children, they will feel like organizers of it, and will try to show their initiative more widely.

Preschoolers will take part in cleaning and decorating the room. Older children can also help prepare the treat. Everything that is within the power of children, they must do themselves, with their own hands.

Give children a broad initiative in inviting guests. Of course, in all cases, the guys should invite the closest and most respected family members - mom, dad, grandmother, grandfather. As for inviting friends and acquaintances, let the children decide this issue themselves. Do not embarrass them even if they want to invite a friend that you do not like. There are no incorrigible people in the world, and the more confidently this can be said about children. Is there a false bias underlying your attitude? And an invitation to a birthday is a very convenient moment to get to know your children's comrades better, to have a good influence on them.

Finally, give the children independence to conduct the holiday itself. This will give them much more joy and fun than active parental intervention. It is enough for parents at the right moment, when an uninvited pause suddenly comes and the guys get confused, not knowing what to do, intervene and tactfully help to continue the fun.Such skillful participation of parents will only raise the general mood, cause new outbursts of cheerful childish laughter. It will be heard for a long time even after parents and other adults have already turned off from the general game.

Child's birthday is a holiday for the whole familyThe main person at the family birthday party is the hero of the occasion. And here it is important for parents not to make a mistake, not to allow the child to think that his birthday is a holiday only for him. Although the birthday is really a holiday of the person who was born on this day, it should be made joyful for all people who come to congratulate you.

Foster a sense of hospitality in children from an early age. Perhaps your child's birthday is the most appropriate moment to nurture this trait. Hospitality implies an attentive, sensitive attitude towards any guest, regardless of whether he is the best friend or just an acquaintance. The hospitable host will not be in the spotlight throughout the evening. He will try to modestly remain in the shadows, while at the same time making sure that everyone feels equally surrounded by attention. Let the children learn not to spare tasty things for guests. Let the older children learn to show all kinds of signs of attention to each other, to make sure that no one is ashamed, bored, or offended.

On a birthday, the question of gifts always arises. What to give? Most often, children beg for money from their parents for a gift. But this is not the best solution.

The custom of gifting arose in ancient times and was caused by the desire of people to do something pleasant, good to each other, to leave a good memory. It is best if children, until they become adults and start earning themselves, prepare gifts made with their own hands: sculpt, glue, draw, knit, embroider, shave, and saw out. Parents and relatives can coincide with the birthday of the purchase of any useful thing (coat, suit, dress, skates). It is very important that children do not develop greed when receiving gifts. Raise in children a sense of sincere gratitude for any gift made with a soul, from the bottom of your heart, and not necessarily expensive. It is disgusting when some people, after the guests leave, start sorting through gifts, setting their price, figuring out whose gift is the most expensive and whose is the cheapest.

Celebrating a child's birthday in a family is a convenient moment for developing the skills of cultural behavior in society, the ability to meet guests, invite them to the table, conduct a general conversation, show signs of attention, etc. Parents do the right thing when they teach children not only to skillfully handle cutlery, but it is also beautiful to eat various dishes, for example, carefully cut off small slices of meat, gently break the cutlet with a fork, imperceptibly place on a spoon, and then on a saucer seeds from compote, silently stir sugar in a glass of tea and so on.

A few remarks about the order of the holiday. For the little ones, it is best to organize a “reception” at 4-5 pm. By this time, the guys usually get up after a nap, and they are in a good, cheerful mood. Allow middle and senior schoolchildren to get together in the evening, but no later than 6-7 hours.

Child's birthday is a holiday for the whole familyCalculate in advance how many guests will gather in order to properly prepare the room, set the table.

Think over the details of holding a family party or evening so that the focus is not on food and tea, but on fun games, art performances and entertainment. For the little ones, it's best to arrange tea with various sweets and cakes. For those who get hungry, make a salad, sandwiches. Since the guys will play, they will want to drink, prepare, besides tea, cranberry mousse or some kind of berry or fruit syrup. If young people come to visit, prepare, in addition to tea, various snacks and hot meals (pancakes with meat, dumplings or something else).

Some readers ask if children can be given wine, even in small doses. In no case. Unfortunately, there are still parents who do not take this issue seriously. Sometimes you can hear such conversations:

- What's wrong with the fact that your little son drank a glass of wine? It's not vodka!

Such parents do not understand that any alcohol is harmful to children, poisons the child's body.

Being at the table should not take the whole time of the holiday. Tell the children how to organize outdoor games. In the summertime, it is better to transfer them to fresh air - to a clearing, a lawn near the house. Schoolchildren will be interested in magic tricks.

In order to calm the children down a little after outdoor games, it is good to organize games with a pencil or guessing comic questions. Tell the children how best to conduct collective dances and singing choral songs. An impromptu concert with the participation of all guests will complement the entertainment, make your child's birthday party joyful for everyone present.

Do not delay the holiday in time. The guys will get tired, start to be capricious, the mood of joy and fun will disappear. Two to three hours is quite enough time.

A well-spent birthday in the family will leave a vivid impression on the children and their peers, will have a good educational impact on them.

V. Tovarnov

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